The reason one person abuses another is to control the victim. Financial abuse occurs when the abuser uses money to have a tight control on his partner. He may make him/her explain every penny they spend regardless what it was for. Sometimes the victim is given an allowance and not allowed to work to earn additional spending money. Sometimes the abuser steals money from the victim or makes him be absent from work or calls the victim at work constantly. The abuser may not allow the victim to look at the checkbook or any financial records.
What can you do if you find yourself in such a state? Insist on being able to see financial records and open your own mail. Tell them you want to be aware of what is going on financially – how much is in savings, in checking, in the stock market, etc. You might consider talking with someone you trust – a friend or family member, even a legal professional, to help you with your situation.
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